Instant Confidence

Guest Blog by Caroline Storey, South Coast Hypnotherapy

Music is an amazing thing to be part of, but what do you do when you feel you can’t?

Confidence is a completely made up feeling. (In fact, all of your feelings are completely made up, you are in complete control, it just takes learning a few little skills to let your conscious mind believe that…)

So if it’s a made up feeling, how do you do it?

I think it’s only fair to warn you that these hints below are just sticking plasters – if you don’t get yourself a small amount of therapy (three or four sessions at the most), you will never totally get rid of the core belief you have that you can’t be constantly confident. But if you’re not ready to come for therapy, when the sticking plaster falls off, just do these exercises again, and the confidence will come back!

Colour

1. If confidence had a colour, what colour would it be? If it had a shape, what shape would it be? Is that 2D, or 3D? If you make that shape bigger, does it make you feel more or less confident? If it makes you feel more confident, how big can you make it? If it makes you feel less confident, how small do you need to make it to feel the most confident you can?

Memories

2. Think of a time you felt confident. (This could be confident at anything, from confidently making a cup of tea, to confidently standing up in front of some parents and speaking at a PTA meeting.) Think about how you were standing, what you sounded like, the sorts of thoughts you had – all of the things that let you know you were doing that thing with confidence. Now, if there was an object or an image to represent that feeling, what would you pick? Imagine placing that object down in front of you, about a stride away. Close your eyes, step forward, and pick up that object, and as you do, feel all of those confident feelings attached to it; the way you stand, the way you sound, the way you feel, the way you think. When you’re ready, place the object back down, ready for the next time you need it. (This is one I used to use a lot when I worked as a manager in local government – I would have to give presentations to lots of (who I imagined were) scary people who never spoke to me any other time, so I would throw down my confidence object as I was about to walk through the door, so I didn’t have to physically bend to pick it up, I just walked through it.

Posture

3. The way you stand can make a huge difference to how you feel. Imagine a thread of confidence, I don’t know how this will look to you, it might be sparkly, it might be solid, it might be see through, but however it looks, this thread is full of confidence. I’d like you to imagine it painlessly absorbing into your lower spine, and as it slowly works its way up your spine, feel how your posture readjusts as that confidence gets into your core. Once it reaches the top of your head, get that confidence thread to pull you up just a little taller. How much better does that feel?

So there you go – three really quick and simple ways to feel instantly more confident. Just imagine how good it will feel if you got rid of the issues you have for good, and felt that way all of the time!

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About the author

Caroline Storey is owner of South Coast Hypnotherapy, a cognitive hypnotherapy practice to help you understand your mind and make it work the way you want it to.

Contact her on change@southcoasthypnotherapy.net for a no-pressure chat to see how we can help.

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Caroline Storey is owner of South Coast Hypnotherapy, a cognitive hypnotherapy practice to help you understand your mind and make it work the way you want it to. Contact her on change@southcoasthypnotherapy.net for a no-pressure chat to see how we can help.

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